A war plan for tonight

Hello Everyone!

Tonight I’m going to a dance bar in Tel Aviv (probably by my self, which is again a bummer) since my last AFC friend got himself a GF. My war plan will consist of the following:

Openers:

1. The Fight opener
2. The Needy girlfriend opener

Probably going to open with the needy girlfriend and then when the conversation will die out, incorporate the ‘Fight opener’ – it should bring some more drama to keep the pace.

Then, I’m going to ask: “So ladies, how do you all know each other?” [They will respond with something] And I’ll say: You’re probably best friends / recently met, then perform the best friends test on them, hopefully not DLVing myself on the way.

Next phase – locking in and starting natural conversation, possibly introduce also the 5 questions game.

Negs I am going to use:

1. Look at how her nose wiggles as she speaks! LOL
2. Did anyone ever tell you you blink a lot?
3. “Slow down, let me put in a word… jesus, how do you put up with her?”
4. You know, I can see that you and I will never get a long… we’re too similar”
5. Wow, that’s a nice hair color. is it

Today I want to concentrate on my inner game. I’m not expecting much , but I want to be able to keep a conversation for as long as I can and be able to lock into a set. If I’ll succeed here – the evening will be considered as a success!

Wish me luck people!

Field report – DayGame at the mall

Hi Everyone,

Yesterday was my first day sarging and applying my game as I learned from the MM book and the pickup artist show. To my surprise I didn’t have any AA (Approach Anxiety) almost at all. I finished work an hour early and set myself a goal of making 5 approaches – now although I didn’t quite fulfilled this goal I was managed to get rid of any traces of AA, I was just gaming and enjoying myself without having a bit of worry about the consequences – and that’s what I’m taking from yesterday’s exercise.

The first approach  took place at an H&M store. I told a girl I’ve got to buy a birthday present to my sister (she did have a birthday this day , so it was kinda true! LOL). She responded that she doesn’t know my sister’s taste so she can’t really help me. I pushed a little further, took some ugly dress from one of the drawers and asked her whether she liked it, at the end I got from her some pretty cold responses and IODs so I ejected pretty quickly – after about 1 minute or so.

The second approach was a hired gun at a soap shop, which was a pretty bad idea, approaching hired guns is much less enjoyable and challenging but overall I think my game there was OK – kept an eye contact , presented some DHVs , etc, but couldn’t get her out of the salesperson character so I ejected.

The third approach was a 3 set, I asked their opinion about a hat I was wearing. (Hi ladies, I need a quick women opinion on something, it will only take a second. What do you think about men with hats?) They were pretty eager,  problem was I noticed they were too young so I ejected quickly as well – but did get a slight ego boost from them =)

The fourth approach was a girl at the bus stop. Asked her a silly question and started talking to her about how much I hate this bus and stuff like that. After she stopped responding to my blabbering , I ejected.

Lessons:

First, let me just say that I would have made much more approaches if I had found suitable targets. There were mostly MILFs + husbands, and teens all around and almost no HBs to be found. The openers overall were pretty good. I was amazed by how quickly you can get rid of AA once you don’t care about the consequence and just thinking “practice, practice, practice”.  hopefully – I’m going to keep this.

But, there were also several things I could have done much better:

1. Stack stories – This one is important. An opener dies pretty quickly, you have to have another story in your barrel ready to be shot exactly 1 second before the previous one dies. This lesson especially applies to the first approach.
2. Don’t ask a lot of questions, it makes the target feel as if she is under interrogation. Instead of asking “Do you live in X? how is this bus ride going to take?” say something like “I bet you live in X. I can see it by the way you dress/talk/etc”.
3. The birthday present opener is a bad one. Indeed, each woman has her one taste and I didn’t find woman amused by giving tips to a guy they didn’t know (unless they wanted to sell him something). A better opener is to ask a girl what does she think about something you’re wearing. That way, you can see if she has some interest in you by the way she looks at you and the way she responds to your newly tried outfit.

This post summarizes Thursday. Today, I’m going to a dance – bar , probably alone – my last single AFC friend got a GF and I don’t want to give up on a Friday night at Tel Aviv – This is a good opportunity to practice. On the next post I’ll elaborate my war plan. Peace!

The needy girlfriend opener

Hi Fellows,

I’ve came up with an opener – a little modification to the worn out jealous girlfriend routine. I call it – the needy girlfriend opener.

Basically, It works like this:

You: Hi guys, I need a female opinion on something, it will only take a second because I have to get back to my friends. A friend of mine brought his girlfriend to the party and she keeps on sitting in the corner (point to an isolated, remote location)  looking ill-tempered. She says that she doesn’t like the way girls stare at my friend (her boyfriend). What do you think he should do? stay with her or drink and dance with us, guys? (maybe ask: what would you do?)

You can go to a lot of places from here. Lets say the girls respond with:

Girls: He should go sit with her, and explain that other girls doesn’t interest him

You can respond with:

You: Boy, you are really a puppy huh? you be manipulated to do anything with the right attitude

Or maybe:

You: So basically, what you’re saying is that he should leave me, his best friend alone in the club with girls like you , (optional, bold.. : temptresses to seduce me)?!

If they respond with something like (unlikely though..)

Girls: He should leave her and have fun (or any other thing that leaves her alone)

You can respond with:

You (to her friends): Boy, she is a great friend isn’t she? how do you put up with her?

I’m going to definitely try that on the coming weekend, let you know how it went 🙂

A little update …

So …

In a question I posted to the PUA community forum , I asked the question “What to do when you’re not in control”.

The problem is (I’ll start from the beginning..) , that I got a FB named G’. G is a phd student and a former Olympic synchronized swimmer. I met her on a dating web-site and we dated for 2-3 weeks, after which I got dumped by her, probably due to the buyer’s remorse syndrome… (she said she found out that she is not into serious relationship at the moment, although she continues to visit the dating website regularly). 2 weeks after she dumped me, we met at the gym and she actually asked if I’m interested in becoming her FB.

Of course, I said yes and we started to hook up 1-2 times a week. The thing that annoys me the most is that we only meet when she wants and not the other way around. So I asked the folks in the community how to get back in business, how to regain control. I got some useful tips which I will follow of course – keep you updated.

In the mean time, I started reading Mystery book about the “Mystery Method” – and its a page turner! so many useful pieces of information in just 160 pages – I’m going to implement everything I learn there. The current goal is Friday – I’m going either my self or with a friend to bar in Tel Aviv, and I don’t intend to leave until I have at least 6-7 approaches ( or a kiss-close .. )

Progress report for the weekend

Yesterday I found myself alone in my apartment. My parents went abroad so I didn’t get back to spend the weekend with them as I usually do. Although my roommate Shira said she would stay – she didn’t at the end since her boyfriend’s dog was dying or some shit.

I thought about how strange it is that all my good friends have boy/girl friends and I’m the only one single. It doesn’t disturb that much except for the fact that I have no one to go sarging with! Even my cousin who was the greatest wingman I ever had, has a girlfriend (and I don’t like her, she’s a bitch. but thats another story..).  I have some friends back in Tel Aviv which are single and can serve as good wingmen, but this weekend I made a mistake by thinking that if I’d stay in Jerusalem and go sarging by myself I’ll have more success. Boy, I was wrong.

As the evening progressed , I found myself contemplating whether I should indeed go out alone. It was kinda weird and depressing – having a friend or two by your side to cheer you up is part of the fun, I thought. Eventually , I had a nice Facebook chat with a -female friend of mine who convinced me to finally go out. So I dressed up and went to my favorite bar , a bar that witnessed me succeed before. As I’m walking , I stopped at some traffic lights with 3 chicks next to me. I had the perfect moment to open the set, but I chickened out , thought too much about what I should say, and the moment was gone. I continued walking to the bar and as I entered , I saw that the entire bar was filled – mostly with males or with females gathered by males. I felt a little strange and mostly pathetic staying there alone – as if everyone staring at me thinking “who is this looser…”. So I left after exactly 10 seconds, and had a small tour around the town center, skipped some club that had a long line in front of them – most of the people who waited there were 8 years younger than me anyway, that’s what I thought , also it was just a stupid excuse. The truth was that  I wasn’t really in the mood…

Eventually, on my way back home I ran into a group of young american tourists who looked for directions. I ‘opened’ the (mixed) set, tried my version of the jealous girlfriend on them and it went pretty cool but I didn’t know how to continue from there – they were a large group and  I walked to the opposite direction so I thought it would look stupid and needy if I walked them to their destination.. So we parted by saying goodbye, and I returned home thinking about what a looser I was by not continuing and escalating the situation with them.

So from this evening I’m taking the following lessons:

• Be more decisive – don’t be afraid to look awkward – you have nothing to loose , especially if you are not familiar with the people involved
• Don’t underestimate yourself in the conversation – there was a part in the conversation where I joked that Jerusalem is the most boring city in the world – just a very few clubs and bars. so one of them responded – “so where do you hang out?” and I said “By sitting at home, crying”. Of course it was a joke, but it was a joke that portrayed me as a looser and of course didn’t contribute to making me look alpha.

That’s it for now, peace! 🙂

Hello world!

Hi Everyone,

I’m Koko Loco. This blog started on a lonely friday night, after returning from a night out by my self trying to pick up girls – without any success.

Actually, It started much earlier. For the past few weeks I’ve been reading Neil Strauss’ book “Rules of the game” and apart from this book being really interesting – it changed something in me. I could really see my self in the old version of Neil. I mean, I’m 27, single for over 2 years, had a bad and too long relationship with a girl that treated me really badly – exactly as Neil portrayed himself before he became what he is today.

Now, I’m not looking for flings and one night stands. I want to improve my self esteem , my ability to talk to other people without loosing eye contact. I want to be able to approach to women without thinking about the consequences. Only then – as I see it I could have a good and satisfying relationship. The process which I’m going through will hopefully make me more confident , help me find a good partner for life , and not making a compromise on something that is not perfect for me , because “that’s what I was able to catch”.

I believe that the inability to approach women in general is a sign for something much deeper than just shyness. Its a sign for a deep lack of self confidence. A man is truly confident of himself only if he’s able to ‘not give a shit’ to a point where he can approach a group of strangers and initiate a conversation.

So , this is it. from now on i’m going to take any chance I’ve got to approach women, I’m going to conquer my fear and hopefully become much more confident and have a richer life as I should have long ago.

In this blog I’m going to describe my progress as time goes by. Every time i’ll try something with a girl – I’m going to write it down including all the lessons learned from the process – in the hope of becoming better and better as time goes by.

Wish me luck!